I will be a father again pretty soon. Or depending on when you’re read this, I already am. This is my second child and I can’t be happier. It’s been over four years since my first one, so I might be a little rusty on my newborn caring, but I’m sure I’ll remember what to do. Back to changing diapers, burping, and watching the little one sleep. I’m eager to see the character she will become.
And this won’t be the first child in my circle. I’m at that age now where plenty of my family and friends have small children or have just delivered this past year. I’m starting to see kids everywhere I go. It helps me to perceive children in a new light as well, since I had my first back in 2014. I never thought I would see myself as a father, but here I am and I hear I’m doing a good job. That being said, upon having children, many ask what it will take to be “the perfect parent”.
I’m not in child psychology. I don’t have any degree in any children field of science. But I do know the answer to this question. What does it take to be the perfect parent? The answer is; there isn’t one. Allow me to share with you what I’ve learned in my short tenure as a father.
There is no such thing as a perfect parent, but there are good ones out there. This is the who we should look to as examples. In order to be a good, or even great parent, I would say that the number one thing that children need is attention. That’s it. If you cannot give children attention, you have no reason to be a parent. Life is about them now.
It’s really fun and inspiring to me to watch them learn something new and figure something out on their own for the first time. I’ve had a lot of firsts with my first child. Now, I get to see it them all over again. It’s truly an amazing experience.
When you give a child the proper love and attention they need, it helps them grow. You, the parent, are the biggest influence on them. They watch you more than anyone and soak up everything you do; so beware. They look up to you and aim to please you with whatever they do.
They’ll also push your buttons. They will need guidance and training as they grow. Children need correcting when they do something wrong. It’s a little weird to see a person not know anything about this world we live in, but that’s where you’re supposed to come in. They need you to teach them the in’s and out’s and what is right and wrong. This also helps them grow properly.
You are their teacher, guardian, protector, trainer, and overall leader. Raising a child is no easy task and isn’t for everyone. It takes a boat load of patience, which I thought I had. It takes a ton of energy. And most of all, it takes time. Just give them the love they need and it’ll become the most rewarding job you’ve ever had.
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